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CELEBRATIONS……LUCKY ME!

July 25, 2022 68 Comments

ONCE AGAIN I AM THE LUCKY ONE WHO GETS TO SAY I’M ANOTHER YEAR OLDER…….

   IF YOU MUST KNOW 62 IS THE GOLDEN NUMBER THIS YEAR………

  I STILL FEEL VERY YOUNG EXCEPT THE BODY!

 

I CANNOT OPEN JARS ANYMORE OR PEEL THE SKIN OFF OF PRAWNS TO THE HORROR OF MY YOUNGEST SON!

   “WELL IT JUST DOES NOT WORK FOR ME ANYMORE!”

“WHAT CAN I SAY BUT WAIT UNTIL YOU BECOME MY AGE!”

 

   WE ALL KNOW I HAVE BEEN A WHIMP SINCE BIRTH BUT ITS GETTING VERY ANNOYING!

EVEN OPENING THE ALMOND MILK CARTON IS HARD WITH THE SCREW TOPPER THEN THE PULL RING!

  I SEEM TO ALWAYS BE HURTING MYSELF.

THATS ANOTHER NEW TOPIC TO TALK ABOUT  BRUISING.

  I SHOULD FIRST TELL YOU ABOUT MY CAKE DISASTER!

  But this comes first.A comment from my last post which many of you will enjoy!

” O MIO DIO”

AS THE ITALIANS SAY WHICH TAKES ME BACK TO THE LAST POST ON ITALIAN LIVING I DO NOT KNOW HOW MANY OF YOU READ THE COMMENTS, BUT A FRIEND OF MINE WHO IS STILL THERE IN FLORENCE TELLS MORE ABOUT ME!

SOME OF WHICH I DIDNOT REMEMBER UNTIL SHE WROTE IT!

HAD ME CRYING FROM THE FIRST SENTENCE.

  I DO GET ALL CHOKED UP FROM TIME TO TIME ESPECIALLY FROM PEOPLE FROM THE PAST!

  SEE BELOW AND YOU WILL KNOW ME EVEN BETTER THAN YOU THINK YOU DO ALREADY!

  O mio dio…. what a stroll down memory lane. I remember meeting you at PlayGroup… Nicholas, your youngest had curls down below his shoulders… he was 2, I asked “how old is she?” Later I learned that you went home and told The Italian “I met a girl from Berkeley…. but I don’t think we’ll be friends.” You were SO WRONG ! I watched you in those years to come, chasing people in ESSELUNGA whose grocery lists you would glance at, see they were written in English, prompting you to say “HELLO !!” or those people who had license plates on their cars that betrayed that they spoke English who you’d chase down to say “HELLO !” You were always cultivating COMMUNITY…. doing your best to make ITALY your HOME because even though in the end, you never wanted to leave, in the beginning it was HARD. Especially all those DUST BUNNIES everywhere…. when you had to learn to vacuum not only the rugs, but also the FLOORS ! You could never understand how from one day to the next so much dust could accumulate !!
You had to be the Mamma of the house…. do all the grocery shopping for not only your family, but for the sisters-in-law who were part of the reason you’d moved here. You found Esselunga in Novoli…. the biggest grocery store in town, with underground parking. You taught me that if you went to -2 there were always places. I still do that today…. at my own Esselunga (Gignora though… not Novoli) and I always think of you as I drive down that ramp to -2.
Remember the geese ? You’d come home from Esselunga and pull out the packaged lettuce – not bagged lettuce… that didn’t exist yet, but the heads of lettuce packaged in two, in a plastic basin covered in cellophane – and you’d yell “COME TO MAMMA” and those geese would come running up to the window from which you’d throw down the greens.
Then came the time to take you to the airport…. cuz work for The Italian was NOT to be had here in economically strapped Italy (they DID offer him a job collecting trash… remember??), so despite your acquired love for the country and its ways and all the friendships you’d forged here, it was time to go back to CA: We took you down to Rome in two cars, and you sweet talked your way into boarding the plane with THIRTEEN BAGS !!! telling them “I’m forced to go back, I don’t want to go… you just have to help me” and those were the days when people understood people and they didn’t charge you an extra dime.
Lots of time has gone by but you’re still here in spirit and your love for this crazy country is still alive, as is the love your friends all have for YOU living far away from us.
Un abbraccio grande grande….

 

SOME REALLY GOOD MEMORIES HERE!

 

   BACK TO THE CAKE DISASTER!

   THIS WAS THE FINISHED PRODUCT!!

  I MADE A ROUND CAKE AND FORGOT MY SECRET INGREDIENT!

THEN I MADE A CAKE OUT OF A ROSE MOLD TO PUT ON TOP OF THE ROUND CAKE!

  BRILLIANT YOU SAY?

  I frosted it all. That went fine……..as I am washing my hands of that sticky goo

I LOOK OVER AND THERE IS HALF THE ROSE MOLD CAKE ON THE KITCHEN COUNTER!

  AS I AM THINKING WHAT TO DO; THE OTHER SIDE GOES DOWN JUST LIKE A VOLCANO!

IN TWO PIECES THIS TIME!

  BY NOW I AM LAUGHING SO HARD AND THINKING THANK GOD IT’S JUST FAMILY COMING FOR DINNER!

  MY ACTUAL THOUGHT WAS THE CAKE FEELS AS SHITTY AS I DO!

 HOWEVER, I REMEMBERED THE SECRET INGREDIENT!

  NOT TELLING WHAT THAT SECRET INGREDIENT IS!

  CAKE BEFORE THE FINISHED PRODUCT.

    AFTER I HAD DONE MY BEST!

 I WAS LAUGHING SO HARD AND SO HAPPY IT WAS JUST FAMILY!

  PS. YES THOSE ARE MY PILLS IN SILVER CONTAINERS.

 THE LITTLE NUT DISHES ON THE LEFT ARE WHAT I USE TO PUT THE PILLS IN BEFORE TAKING.

A SWEET PHOTO TAKEN A FEW YEARS AGO!

  IT’S SO NICE WHEN YOUR FRIENDS REMEMBER YOU!

  I HAVE TO SAY I HAD A FEW THIS YEAR!

WHICH WAS WONDERFUL!

AS I HAD NO PARTY PLANNED OR MEALS OUTSIDE THE HOME!

  I JUST WAS NOT IN THE MOOD!

VERY STRANGE FOR ME………

 ON ANOTHER TOPIC BESIDES ME ME ME!

  WHO HAS EXPERIENCED PANIC ATTACKS?

 CAN YOU SHARE IN THE COMMENTS WHAT THOSE SYMPTOMS ARE LIKE FOR YOU?

 AND HOW LONG YOU HAVE HAD THEM?

  TO DO THAT JUST KEEP SCROLLING DOWN.

PAST THE BIG SUBSCRIPTION BOX PLEASE. THEY MAY NOT SHOW UP RIGHT AWAY BUT THEY WILL AFTER I SEE THEM…………..

  EMOJI’S DONOT SHOW UP IN THE COMMENTS…..

  I HAVE NO IDEA WHY AND DONOT HAVE THE BRAIN TO FIGURE IT OUT!

 BUT EXCLAMATION MARKS DO!!!

  NOW FOR A FUN CLIP FROM LINDA BERGTHOLD. CLICK ON LINK BELOW……

  TITLED PRICE OF GAS IN FRANCE.I PROMISE YOU WILL GET A GOOD CHUCKLE!

    XXX

 

https://agingwomenblog.com/price-of-gas-in-france/

 

 

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  • Dee Black
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    July 28, 2022 at 5:56 PM

    Oh pretty picture. You look relaxed on your Birthday. Good sign for future. Love the garden seating and flowers. That cake falls into the “if we cannot hide it we decorate it” A+.
    Such a memory your friend has of your time in Italy. How sweet to be remembered so fondly. Gave such a glimpse into that time.
    No anxiety attacks, I do, however, have rises in blood pressure when I get upset. I’ve had to learn to do the breathing exercises. They do help.
    Yes it’s harder and harder to open anything. Love all the tips above.
    Again….Happiest of Birthday wishes to you. Best years to come. I’m 67 and it’s better all the time. Like fine wine, we mellow.

  • Margaret
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    July 28, 2022 at 3:41 PM

    Happy Birthday Elizabeth. I enjoyed your blog very much. Reading your friends recollections of your time in Italy was a small glimpse into who you are. I love your secret ingredient on the cake, makes me all the difference. Best wishes!!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 30, 2022 at 8:28 AM

      THANK YOU!!
      XXX

  • Barbara at Mantel and Table
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    July 27, 2022 at 3:18 PM

    Happy Happy Birthday! You’re as beautiful as ever, and as fun! The letter from your friend brought tears to my eyes – that’s what it’s all about, isn’t it? Such wonderful and long time friends are the best. And it was great to find out some fun little things about you! My husband and I are convinced that modern packaging uses stronger glue and snugger caps!
    Sending love and patience your way – getting old isn’t for the faint hearted, but you’re working up to it with grace and elegance!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:51 AM

      PLUS USING MORE PLASTICS……………
      WHEN IN ITALY SOME 30 YEARS AGO THEY WERE CHARGING YOU FOR PLASTIC BAGS THERE WERE NO PAPER BAGS!
      SO THE CUSTOMERS WOULD BRING THEM BACK AND BACK AGAIN TO RE-USE!!
      WHY DOES EVERYTHING TAKE SO LONG HERE TO PUT INTO ACTION?
      THE SAD THING IS NO BODY REALLY CARES…………
      THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMPLIMENTS!
      I AM ALWAYS TAKEN A BACK WHEN PEOPE TELL ME I AM SO ELEGANT AS I DO NOT SEE IT!
      THANK YOU THANK YOU,
      XXX

  • Sarah London
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    July 27, 2022 at 3:16 PM

    Happy Belated Birthday Wishes Elizabeth. The cake looks delicious! Hope it tasted so even without the secret ingredient. I can’t actually remember the last time I made a cake, I’d probably stuff it up too 🙂 … perhaps that’s why you forgot the secret ingredient too? Not enough baking.. just a thought.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:45 AM

      NO I FORGOT AS I WAS DOING TOO MUCH AT ONE TIME!
      CLEANING UP SINK FROM NIGHT BEFORE (I KNOW THATS TERRIBLE BUT I AM SOOO TIRED AFTER DINNER)
      MAKING RICE SALAD………JUST TO HAVE ON HAND AND THE CAKE!
      I SHOULD HAVE DONE ONE THING AT A TIME BUT THATS NOT ME!
      I AM THE MORE CREATIVE TYPE AS MOST FINISH ONE PROJECT ,BEFORE ANOTHER LIKE THE ITALIAN!!!
      THAT DAY WILL NEVER COME……..AS I SAY WE WOMEN ARE MULTI-TASKERS!!
      XXX

  • Lorna
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    July 27, 2022 at 11:44 AM

    I loved reading your friend’s memories of you. You’re one special lady who makes friends everywhere you go. I have a new blog follower thanks to you: Lisa Thomson. Thanks for the connection. I am following her blog now too.
    I can’t say I’ve ever had any panic attacks except last October in Lucca. We were going to the top of the Giunigi tower and about three quarters of the way up I found I couldn’t breathe so well and my legs started trembling. So I stayed where I was and my husband went up and then I waited until we could go back down together. It was not a pleasant experience.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:41 AM

      I NEVER DID THOSE TOWERS AS THE WHOLE IDEA JUST SCARED ME!YOU WERE VERY BRAVE TO TRY IT!I WAS TOLD THERE WAS NO TURNING BACK IF ONE STARTED UP!!
      YES, I SPOKE TO LISA SHE LIVES IN CANADA AND FOR SOME REASON YOU CAME UP!YOU THINK I REMEMBER HECK NO!!BUT I TOLD HER TO FOLLOW YOU!!!
      I LOVE IT WHEN PEOPLE LISTEN TO ME!!!
      KATHARINE AND I HAVE A SPECIAL RELATIONSHIP AS SHE WAS MY GO TOO PERSON WHEN I NEEDED AN ANWSER OR HELP!!
      XXX

  • Homebeforedark
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    July 27, 2022 at 8:21 AM

    Happy birthday from as almost 73! Yes to hating to open jars. Some tips: I hit the edges of jars on my thick cutting board all around and then hold jar upside down and give it a thump—helps to release air! Also I save squares of that foamy like cabinet liner material. Hold jar with one to increase gription (my son’s toddler word I adored and kept) and use a square to open the top. New to me: insert spoon handle into ring pull and use to spoon bowl as leverage and raise spoon handle. I use kitchen scissors to to off taps on top of bone broth cartons while I swear at the designers who thought that packaging was genius. If all fails I scream for my husband!’n

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:32 AM

      ALL BRILLIANT!!
      Love the wooden spoon for the MILK RINGS!
      “GRIPTION” what a word……………I LOVE IT TOO!
      YOU ARE FULL OF GOOD ADVISE!!!
      THANK YOU!
      XXX

  • Sandra Sallin
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    July 27, 2022 at 8:01 AM

    I loved that comment from your friend in Italy. She really captured you and your time in Italy. Very you. Who can open stuff? Bob can. I always smart the top smartly on the floor. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I love your mess of a cake. We all do that kind of stuff but you saved it, at least for photos with the flowers. I remember being so excited when you turned 60 so you could be in Advanced Style.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:30 AM

      YES that was like my 57 th BIRTHDAY
      ON THE FLOOR?YOU MEAN ON THE COUNTER I WOULD IMAGINE!
      I got you into ADVANCED STYLE……………….and that was WONDERFUL!!
      ARI LOVED YOU TWO!
      I Think you need to get a PET NOW so you can be in the NEXT BOOK!!
      MAYBE A FROG OR HAMSTER THAT DOESN’T TAKE MUCH CARE!!!
      JUST KIDDING!
      XXX!

  • cindy
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    July 27, 2022 at 7:40 AM

    Well since none of my comments are showing up apparently I need to go back and re-comment. I remember the fabulous soiree for your birthday that I was so lucky to attend a few years ago. We need to have another celebration like that! Here’s to better health this next year! Onward and upward!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 28, 2022 at 7:26 AM

      That would be fun but I doubt I will have that energy back ever…………
      XXX

  • LA CONTESSA
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    July 27, 2022 at 6:38 AM

    via email to me:

    CIAO BELLA CONTESSA ELIZABETH!

    GRAZIE MILLE FOR YOUR EMAIL!

    I HOPE YOU HAD A SMASHING LONG BIRTHDAY WEEKEND ! I DID RAISE MY GLASS TO YOU, DEAR ELIZABETH, AT SUPPER THAT EVENING !
    DID YOU KNOW THAT PRINCE GEORGE ALSO CELEBRATED HIS BIRTHDAY ….ON YOUR SPECIAL DAY?! SO EXCITING!

    I DO THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR KIND AND ENCOURAGING WORDS, ELIZABETH.

  • Jo Floyd
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    July 26, 2022 at 11:21 PM

    A very Happy belated Birthday Elizabeth! Yours cake looks amazing , we all have disasters and re build haha.
    Yes I have experienced panic attacks and still do, often at night I go to sleep then wake in a panic , I calm myself with a mantra . During the day they became so bad about your age I finally went on medication ‘citaflam’ 1 happy pill a day keeps me cruising along and able to be in control. My doctor says not to stop medication that’s fine by me.
    Yes I found my body didn’t live up to my expectations for about 10 years over your age then things got better , keep that thought !!!! Like you I am tall, experienced very early menopause ! See humour in everything, a bit outspoken haha. You continue enjoying each day as it comes, your humour like mine Carry s you through. Much love xxxxx

  • Jo Floyd
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    July 26, 2022 at 11:19 PM

    A very Happy belated Birthday Elizabeth! Yes I have experienced panic attacks and still do, often at night I go to sleep then wake in a panic , I calm myself with a mantra . During the day they became so bad about your age I finally went on medication ‘citaflam’ 1 happy pill a day keeps me cruising along and able to be in control. My doctor says not to stop medication that’s fine by me.
    Yes I found my body didn’t live up to my expectations for about 10 years over your age then things got better , keep that thought !!!! Like you I am tall, experienced very early menopause ! See humour in everything, a bit outspoken haha. You continue enjoying each day as it comes, your humour like mine Carry s you through. Much love xxxxx

  • lisa thomson-author
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:51 PM

    Cakes are quite the undertaking! I make a cheesecake every year for my step-son’s birthday. Last year, I had a new to me oven, well it took hours to cook! Then got all dark on top. So frustrating. It’s good to be able to laugh at the things that go wrong, just like you did. I bet the cake tasted delicious! You look amazing, LA CONTESSA! So elegant.
    I also have trouble opening things these days and I’m still in my 50’s. Jars, plastic doo-ma-hickeys, can openers…I can still manage a corkscrew though! Thank goodness Haha!
    I read that comment on the last post! How wonderful to have you old friend join us and share a glimpse of YOU back in the Italy days. So sweet!

  • bonnie
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:46 PM

    happy birthday gorgeous friend. that cake looked like it tasted good…that’s what matters! but i understand the frustration.
    re: panic attacks. i haven’t had a full blown one for maybe 30 years, as i stop them in their tracks. deepbreathing and ‘don’t you dare’ mantra. they were horrible in their day. and no one knew at the time what they were. explained by a few above. heart beating out of my chest, palpitations, nausea, sweatig, spinning and tingling all over my body. i’m sure my blood pressure was through the roof. and my first one seemed to last hours but was probably about an hour. awful. of course, i had some at client meetings. that was a joy. not. i think you and the doctors would know if it was one. of course, with doctors now adays…
    sending love as always, bonnie

  • PPP
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:29 PM

    Ma Chere Contessa,
    A big happy birthday to you!!!
    Despite the missing ingredient and volcanic mishap, I know your cake was delicious!
    You have a way of getting past daunting challenges. You never pamper yourself and whine. Your a champ.?
    Your friend’s description of you in Italy was wonderful. As I read comments in your blog, I see that once again you are bringing people together in a virtual community. You have great friends and we all live your entertaining and informative blog.
    I have learned a wee bit of Italian today.. “O dio mio”. I hope I remember it.
    The flowers in the cake was so Contessa .. you’re truly an original..
    So go out and celebrate fabulous you!
    Happy belated birthday.. wishing you the best always. Thanks for a lovely read.
    Love,

    PPP

  • kim
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    July 26, 2022 at 2:02 PM

    Elizabeth, I am so glad you made your cake look pretty anyway! I’m sure it tasted wonderful. The note from your friend was so precious and I bet it was lonely for you at the beginning. NO wonder you are now so good at bringing people together. You had a lot of practice reaching out. I also have had panic attacks. Usually my heart rate goes up and start overthinking it all and feel dizzy. The best way for them to go away is for me to breath slowly for a few minutes.. The five seconds in, hold it for four seconds, and five seconds out, and also distracting myself like picking up Instagram and scrolling. It gets my mind off whatever I was freaking out about. Also I avoid much caffeine and barely any alcohol or sugar..
    Sending big hugs and looking forward to our birthday lunch soon. xo

  • Candace Wilson Culp
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    July 26, 2022 at 11:34 AM

    I’m sorry another birthday has gone past without our meeting. Hoping for this year!
    You look divine and I admire your spirit. Wish I lived close enough to hang out with you and your joi de vivre!
    I had a bday party for a friend and since she loved key lime pie I decided to make a key lime cake.with the frosting being green and topped with blackberries. Well, the frosting need thinning, but I thinned too much and the kitchen was hot, so when I carried it in all lit up it looked like a Halloween specialty. The frosting was really running down and the berries made deep purple streaks. Good news it was delish… as I’m sure yours was.
    Loved the letter from Italy. You are such a sport in all you do!
    Feel better… xo Candace

  • 1010ParkPlace
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    July 26, 2022 at 11:04 AM

    Happy Birthday my darling friend! It’s easy to let the trials of aging get to you to the point you give in to them and let them make you feel older than you are. I know, I catch myself doing that, but yesterday, I began to wonder if I’d be crazy to do an adventure like I used to do? This time perhaps I’d go to where I was taken, at gunpoint, and forced into the jungles of Guatemala. I asked my documentary filmmaker friend if he’d go with me and take a camera. He said, “ARE YOU CRAZY? NO!!!” So… Perhaps I need to find something else to do. Again, Happy Birthday, and listen to Belleruth Naperstek’s “Panic Attack” audios. They will help. Love, Brenda

  • Fran
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    July 26, 2022 at 10:13 AM

    Carissima Contessa, Elizabeth….how dull life would be if YOU were not in it! You bring us so much needed colour, sparkle, laughter, inspiration, joy, beauty, strength of mind, courage….YOU truly touch many lives!
    Your friend’s recollections of YOU in Italy are Magnificent and Precious! It is evident that exuberance of heart radiates Far and Wide!
    Judging by your Amazing photos, it looks like you had one Wonderful Birthday celebration! You look Absolutely BEAUTIFUL and RADIANT!.. and ..what cake disaster?!? It looks Darn Tootin’ Delicious and Gorgeous!
    I just hope that you start feeling MUCH BETTER REALLY SOON!
    ….YOU REALLY DO MAKE THE WORLD A MUCH BETTER PLACE!….
    GRAZIE MILLE, MY FRIEND FROM AFAR!
    XX00Fran

  • Gray
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    July 26, 2022 at 9:42 AM

    Happy Happy Birthday Elizabeth, my new online girlfriend! I am turning 64 next month! I understand your aches and pains! The bruising is the worst, but I have had that for years….
    Hope you have a wonderful celebration with your boys!

  • Rena McDaniel
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    July 26, 2022 at 9:06 AM

    Happy Birthday I am so sorry I missed it. I don’t know what has happened to my brain lately. I have suffered from panic attacks since I became a new mom 33 years ago. I’ve gone years without one and then it will happen out of the blue. Mine hit mostly at night, but I have had them during the day. The worst was once I had one in the middle of a work day when I was waiting tables. I was so embarrassed I never went back! It;s a horrible feeling like you’re dying from a heart attack and then afterwards you feel so drained. I hate it. My doctor put me on Ambien and I haven’t had one since but I know they are always there lurking! I bruise so easily these days too! I wrote a post over on TDAC about my bruising you should check it out. It’s called I Fought Mother Nature & She Kicked My Ass!

    • Diane Carnevale
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      July 27, 2022 at 1:25 PM

      Oh I missed your birthday! I’m always a bit sad on July 25, because it’s the day that my father died. But thank you for giving me a reason to smile on that day, too!

      We have all have had cake disasters. One time I had a beautiful fruit tart, and brought it to an Easter party. It needed to be refrigerated and since it was cool And their fridge was filled, I left it outside with saran wrap covering it. A squirrel ate half of it! Haha!

      I like your secret ingredient for cakes. I add mail to my big turkey meatballs to add some moisture.

      Happy happy birthday, and wishing you joyful and healthy year ahead, Elizabeth!

  • Penelope C.S.
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    July 26, 2022 at 9:01 AM

    Glad you had a sweet birthday celebration with family and a delicious cake, in its deconstructed version. Sorry for all the woes of the physical body but the spirit still shines! May you have a healthy, happy new spin around the sun!
    Thanks for sharing your friend’s memories of you in Italy.
    Abbraccio!
    XO,
    Penelope

  • Lynn McClain
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:59 AM

    At 78, panic attacks have tormented me for much of my life. My mother was a victim and at six I witnessed her pounding heart, crying and hysterical blindness – she was certain she had a brain tumor. That night I had a pounding heart, difficulty breathing and vomited all over my new bedroom rug. This was about a once a week occurrence and I took Phenobarbitol for four years. The panic subsided until my 40s when it returned as a symptom of perimenopause – I was prescribed Librium. At 60, Diazepam became my new helper. The symptoms of my attacks are always the same: At first I feel very agitated, then the pounding heart (which almost hurts), shortness of breath, shakiness, diarrhea and a need to pee. I take one 5mg Diazepam and settle down in about 30 minutes. Four weeks ago, I shattered my hip and had a partial replacement. In recovery I had an attack and even filling my IV line with Ativan it took two hours for me to get calm. I hope my story helps and isn’t too depressing! Your blog is my favorite and I look so forward to reading it.

  • Penelope Ruth Harrison
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:52 AM

    Happy Birthday! and many, many more.
    But, IMO, life is too short for secret ingredients. Anything you can do to make the
    world a better place should be shared with everyone.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 8:09 AM

      ONE CUP OF MAYO!
      ON TOP OF YOUR OTHER INGREDIENTS !
      XXX

  • Joan
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:39 AM

    Happy Birthday, dear Elizabeth. I love seeing how you keep all your medications in such a lovely way. My husband has all his ugly pill bottles out on the coffee table. Perhaps I can try to disguise them as you do. I keep my vitamins in the kitchen cupboard, do not take any medications.

    In a panic attack, the balance of oxygen and carbon dioxide is upset. Hyperventilating when taking short breaths causes the dizziness and panic. I had panic attacks years ago when overloaded and stressed due to all my responsibilities….3 young kids, college assignments, housework, etc. The doctor told me next time to breathe into a paper bag because then you inhale more of what your body needs and the faintness will stop. It worked, plus I
    dropped some courses and was able to manage. It just took a little longer to get my B.A.

    I am also 20 years older than you are and have arthritis in my hands so I use the old trick I learned from my mother.
    hold the offending jar under a hot water tap and bang the rim with a heavy knife (dull side) in the open direction to loosen it,…..works every time.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 8:08 AM

      THANK YOU
      I SHALL TRY IT………WE SHALL CALL IT THE MOTHER’s METHOD!
      I’ll let you know if it works!!
      XXX

  • Judy
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:37 AM

    Dear Elizabeth , Happy Birthday ,you look wonderful. I love your zest for life, please come over here to England I would love to meet you. I loved the cake story ,I did it once the icing was so heavy the cake collapsed under the weight! I can’t pull rings either it’s too painful, my lovely husband does all the “opening “ in this house! He thinks I should do hand muscle exercises, it’s a bit too late I think at 83. Love and best wishes Judy in Brighton U K

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 8:02 AM

      I HAVE BEEN TO BRIGHTON WITH THE BIG DOCK!!
      I WOULD LOVE TO COME VISIT!!
      LETS HOPE I CAN TRAVEL SOON AS I AM READY TO FLY THIS COOP!!
      MEN!
      AND THEIR IDEAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      XXX

  • Pat
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:25 AM

    Only 62? Ha, I can do better than that! Age may be the one area where I gave you beat!!! I loved your friend’s recollections of your time in Italy. You may be living in California now, but it’s wonderful knowing that your spirit and joy for life follow you everywhere. And the cake….who cares if it turned into a chocolate lava cake, I’m impressed at your creativity.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 7:57 AM

      THE TIME IN ITALY WAS MY BEST TIME…….even as sad as the story is.
      I didnot care as I was laughing so hard I felt well; the cake feels as bad as I do!
      See you MONDAY!
      XXX

  • May
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:24 AM

    Happy Birthday!
    Your cake looks delicious and determined to be unique.
    I hope you are all right, not experiencing panic or anxiety disrpting your life.
    Panic attack versus anxiety attack
    Panic attacks are 100 times worse than an anxiety attack. Both are physically challenging and emotionally painful. Panic attacks are concentrated fear intensified. I hear everything like it is in a tube. I feel hot, but my skin is cool. Light glows without glowing. I can move and speak with a feeling of I died, but nobody knows it yet. I remember my first panic attack like a video without sound. Since then, mid 1980s, I’ve had very few.
    Anxiety attacks have been numerous, many bordering on panic level.
    After learning I’m empathic, anxiety intensity has decreased. I am more engaged in observing the process instead of focusing on how bad I feel. The turn around and go home option is my best and most comforting tool. It has been years since I stopped packing for a 3 day trip every time I left my home. ?

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 7:54 AM

      SO YOU CAN DRIVE WHEN THESE ATTACKS COME ON?
      XXX

  • LA CONTESSA
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    July 26, 2022 at 7:12 AM

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    Happy Birthday beautiful!!! Hope all is well for you in California.

  • Kathy L
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    July 26, 2022 at 6:26 AM

    The cake may not look perfect on your birthday, but you sure do look perfect wearing that pretty chiffon top.
    For the first time in my life, about a dozen years ago, I had a summer of panic attacks when both kids seemingly conspired to give me a nervous breakdown – it was the perfect storm. The panic attacks felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest – it was difficult to breathe and my heart felt like it was beating so hard out of my chest. IBS (which I never had prior) soon followed. Both conditions faded once the cause of my extreme stress resolved itself, but the panic attacks and IBS lingered for another 3 months (but fortunately never returned). Toward the end of the situation, I mentioned the panic attacks and IBS at my annual wellness exam, and my doctor prescribed me Xanax, which worked like a charm (1/2 a .25 mg pill) when I felt a panic attack or IBS coming on (I’ve never taken the pills since). I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing panic attacks. When I feel a mini nervous breakdown coming on, I take 15-20 mins to close my eyes and deep breathe (youtube) and do creative visualization – they work.
    I cannot figure out what the secret cake ingredient is – maybe mayo??

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 7:52 AM

      YES!
      YOU GUESSED RIGHT A FULL CUP AFTER YOU PUT ALL THE OTHER INGREDIENTS IN!
      I AM SO SORRY YOUR CHILDREN gave YOU SUCH A HARD TIME!
      I AM THERE NOW!
      XANAX SEEMS TO HELP A LOT OF PEOPLE!
      XXX

  • Karen
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    July 26, 2022 at 6:08 AM

    Happy Birthday to a friend I’ve never met but Feel like I know well, and much better after reading your letter from your dear friend.
    I love your new birthday picture! You look so young. I am 20 years your senior and have bruises to prove it, and can’t open jars either. I thank God each day tho.

    I still have your picture of you and Banksy in my kitchen that you sent me. I love your blog and look forward to seeing them come in my mail!

    Stay strong and smile a lot cuz your beautiful. Just one day at a time. Hugs

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 7:46 AM

      THANK YOU KAREN………..I NEED TO SEND YOU AN UPDATED PHOTO!!
      WELL, I AM HAPPY YOU FEEL YOU KNOW ME AS THIS IS WHAT THE COMMENTS ARE ALL ABOUT!

      • LA CONTESSA
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        July 27, 2022 at 7:48 AM

        XXX

  • Donna
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    July 26, 2022 at 6:07 AM

    Elizabeth – Happy, Happy Birthday, young woman! Ugh, the damned pull-cap on the almond milk, it makes me crazy, too!
    Your time in Italy, as recalled by your friend, is precious – you are magnetic, always pulling in community.
    Yes, I had panic attacks for a couple of years – I’d feel myself getting anxious, my heart would begin to race, then I would feel short of breath – leading to sometimes crying or screaming (if I were in the car and could do so!) My FEMALE cardiologist figured out my heart was causing the panic attacks, not my HEAD! So, we changed my blood pressure meds, I noticed that wheat also triggered a reaction – quit eating it – and I took half of a xanax when needed.
    When I had the surgery to remove my breast implants last year – the panic attacks STOPPED!! So, they caused it.
    I wish you luck on finding a solution soon to yours, they are discombobulating! Strolling helped me, too. XO

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 7:43 AM

      BEEN OFF WHEAT FOR ABOUT A YEAR EVEN GLUTEN FREE I HAVE BEEN TOLD IS BAD FOR YOU!BY A FUNCTUAL DOCTOR. I SEEM TO GET VERY BLOATED NOW IF I SNEAK A PIECE OF BREAD OR CAKE!
      I DO NOT HAVE PANIC ATTACKS………………I HAVE WHAT I CALL EPISODES WHICH COULD BE SIMILAR BUT FROM WHAT I AM READING NOT PANIC. I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE A GOOD TOPIC TO DISCUSS AND DOUBLE CHECK ON THE SYMPTOMS………SO FAR I DO NOT COMPARE.
      IT’S GOOD TO HEAR THAT THEY CAN GO AWAY!
      I WISH MY PROBLEM WOULD JUST GO PUFF…………….I AM BEGINNING TO THINK I WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THIS.
      XXX

  • Pierrette
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    July 26, 2022 at 5:04 AM

    The cake! And the way you described it’s collapse!
    I loved the letter from your friend. How wonderful! Exactly the way I picture you. Chasing down people. Lucky them.
    A bright light in their day.
    I love your blog. Such a treat every time I see a new one.

    Pierrette

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 6:53 AM

      THE BEST CHASING SCENE WAS AN AMERICAN VAN CHEVY I THINK ;DRIVING THROUGH THE CAMPGROUND.
      YES THE ITALIAN’S CAMP ALL SUMMER LONG AS ITS TOO HOT TO BE IN THE CITIES!!
      BUT CAMPING THERE IS DIFFERENT THEN HERE! THAT WOULD MAKE A GOOD BLOG POST!
      YOU HAVE THE GREEN GROCER THE BUTCHER AND THE GELATO SHOP EVEN A LAUNDRY SHOP!!
      NO ONE IS AT THE BEACH BETWEEN NOON AND TWO…….EVERYONE IS TO TAKE A NAP!!!!
      HOW ABOUT THAT!!!
      XXX

  • Libby
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:49 AM

    Happiest of birthdays to you.
    We’ve all had our share of cooking disasters. A memorable one of mine was serving guest crab mornay from a chafing dish. Well, after a few guests looked perplexed after tasting it, I tasted and realized the steno in the silver heating container must have spilled onto the crackers on the tray. Thank goodness the crab was fine!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 6:47 AM

      OMG LIBBY!
      YIKES……..HOPE EVERYONE HAD A GOOD LAUGH!!
      XXX

  • Zoe
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:42 AM

    Happy belated birthday and I hope it’s the start of a New Year filled with good health, happy surprises and much love.
    I love reading your blog and all of your delightful stories. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I want to be just like you when I grow up!
    Hugs,
    Zoe

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 6:45 AM

      YOU ARE SO FUNNY!
      HOW OLD ARE YOU?!!
      I’VE BEEN TOLD I MAKE MY LIFE INTO A FAIRY TALE……….
      I DO NOT SEE IT SO THAT ALWAYS STUMPS ME!
      I THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS.
      XXX

  • Janey
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:29 AM

    Okay it did make me chuckle. Thanks!
    Ahh to be 62 again. You look great Elizabeth. Happy Birthday.
    I too have trouble opening things, especially water bottles. Awful to be in the car alone and need desperately to open a water bottle, but I found a solution! I know you go for blood tests now and then. You know the little flat rubber tunicate that they strap on your arm? They throw them away. Ask to keep yours. It wraps nicely around a bottle cap and allows you to open it! I keep one in my car…one in my purse and one in the kitchen!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 6:43 AM

      HA!I AM HEADED FOR BLOOD TEST TODAY!!
      WILL ASK AND TRY!WILL LET YOU KNOW HOW IT GOES FOR ME!!
      MANY MANY THANKS!
      XXX

  • Mary James
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    July 26, 2022 at 4:24 AM

    Happy birthday from someone 11 years older who cannot open things either. You may recall an episode on Carol Burnett of her coming home from work and trying to make dinner by opening things, all of which were impossible. So true, so true. Whoever is in the house, I hold the item out and don’t say a word. It’s a given: OPEN IT. Even cans at times become impossible even with a decent opener.
    Your cake had to be delicious, so who cares what it looks like. The flowers were ideal on them. So glad you got to celebrate with family. That is what it is all about, and you look beautiful!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 27, 2022 at 6:41 AM

      OH GOOD TO KNOW I AM NOT THE ONLY ONE WITH THE CANS!
      WATER BOTTLES STUMP ME TOO!
      YES, I DO RECALL CAROL B AND HER SHOW PROBABLY ALL OF THEM!!
      THAT WAS A HIGHLIGHT FOR ME GROWING UP THE WHOE FAMILY WOULD WATCH IT!
      THANK YOU SO MUCH…………XXX

  • Pipistrello
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    July 25, 2022 at 5:28 PM

    Happy Birthday to you, Bella!!! I meant to leap in earlier with timely wishes but … can we also add forgetfulness to mysterious bruising etc etc to the litany of increasing decrepitude?? Hahaha!! Despite any moan moan grumbling from this corner, I really couldn’t give a fig about it all for we have love in our lives and still know how to have a good laugh, even if it’s at our own expense.

    I also want to add that your Italian reminiscences were just marvellous and such a wonderful window into your life. And it gave me an opportunity to show off: just yesterday, a neighbour showed me a large green glass flask amongst her art and sculpture and collected memories of a long and well-travelled life and asked if I knew what it was. Oh yes, I said, like I’m an expert, that’s an Italian wine flask to collect wine from a vineyard. It usually has woven raffia stuffs around it. Yes, she says to me, that’s what I was told! However did you know? A friend was talking about this just the other day, says I, and if I had a moustache to twirl right then, I would have twirled it with panache 🙂

    Baci xx

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 26, 2022 at 9:28 AM

      YOUR COMMENTS TAKE MY BREATH AWAY!
      YES FORGETFULNESS CAN BE ON THE LISTA!AS THAT IS HAPPENING TO ME NOW AT A HORRIBLE RATE……..
      SEEMS I HAVE ALL THE SIDE EFFECTS TO THE ANTI-SEIZURE MEDS!!
      MEMORY LOSS IS AT THE TOP!AND IF YOU COULD SEE MY SPELLING WELL YOU WOULD UNDERSTAND.
      I KNOW ISN’T THAT JUST MARVELOUS HER MEMORIES OF ME?
      SOME I HAD FORGOTTEN LIKE THE NEGATIVE TWO PARKING SPACES!!!!
      WHEN WE BOUGHT THE GEESE WE THOUGHT THEY WERE DUCKS!!OUR NEIGHBORS WITH THE EGGS KEPT SAYING THEY WERE GEESE AND I WOULD SHAKE MY HEAD AND SAY NO!!!
      OF COURSE THEY WERE RIGHT!!
      I LOVED THEM ANYWAY AS THEY WOULD NAP WITH THE DOGS!!
      XXX
      BACI BACK AT YA!

  • Dora Renata pala
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    July 25, 2022 at 2:36 PM

    Ciao Elisabeth
    Che bellissima lettera,un dolcissimo riconoscimento di una lunga e importante amicizia.Riguardo il dolce non è importante se non è riuscito perfetto, è bello comunque condividerlo con chi ti vuole immensamente bene.happy day.

    • LA CONTESSA
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      Author
      July 26, 2022 at 9:19 AM

      SI, DA VERO UNA BELLISSIMA LETTERA!
      MOLTO GENTLE GRAZIE!
      XXX

  • Michele
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    July 25, 2022 at 1:50 PM

    Elizabeth- I loved reading your friend’s memories from your time in Italy – O Dio Mio! My Italian friend and I say that all the time! Thank you for sharing that with us – I imagine they must miss you very much.
    Your cake story made me laugh but I bet it was still delicious! Secret ingredient – mayo? But then if you tell it won’t be a secret – right?
    Sending hugs and you looked so pretty in that dress
    Xox
    M

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 26, 2022 at 9:17 AM

      SI!
      ONE CUPPA!!!
      XXX

  • Juliet
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    July 25, 2022 at 1:44 PM

    Ha ha … not sure what I’m laughing at more, your friend’s recollections, your cake debacle or the Degas!!! But more importantly WHAT is the secret ingredient? You must tell? 62 never looked so good or had a better sense of humor. Looking forward to the 10th, Miss. Daisy. 😉 xo

    • LA CONTESSA
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      Author
      July 26, 2022 at 9:16 AM

      ONE CUP OF MAYO!!!
      XXX

  • Barbara Spain
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    July 25, 2022 at 12:50 PM

    Wishing you a happy belated birthday, Contessa! Was the secret ingredient the egg? I remember baking a cake for my son’s birthday party. I was in a hurry… I remember taking a very flat cake out of the oven! It was egg free before that became a thing! Panic attacks are terrible! I still get them. Over what? Who knows! Anyway, starts with a fuzzy feeling in my head. Then my stomach tightens up… then my brain says, You are going to pass out! I hold my breath! Then feel a little dizzy! It can last 4-10 minutes. I have learned to recognize when one is happening. I have learned to cope with it and then move on!

    • LA CONTESSA
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      July 26, 2022 at 9:15 AM

      VERY INTERESTING AS I AM STILL HAVING THE EPISODES!
      I REFUSE TO TALK ABOUT THEM ANYMORE AS IT WILL BE A YEAR COME AUGUST I HAVE BEEN ON MEDS!
      MY SON SUGGESTED I AM HAVING A PANIC ATTACK……..WHICH NO ONE IN THE SEVEN YEARS OF EPISODES HAS OFFERED AS AN EXPLANATION!!I DID MY HOMEWORK AND DONOT THINK THAT IS MY AILMENT!!BUT ALL OF YOU READERS HAVE BEEN SO HELFUL I THOUGHT I WOULD ASK IF ANY OF YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED THEM.
      AGAIN THE ANSWERS HERE ARE VERY HELPFUL HERE!
      FROM WHAT YOU DESCRIBE I AM NOT HAVING THEM…………..
      YOU TAKE CARE.
      XXX

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